How to Deal With Relational Aggression

 ‘The two coworkers I work with have known each other since they were 19, go on smoke breaks together and know all the same friends.  So of course I don’t fit in so much already.  I’ve worked here for 6 months and I guess I thought I might start to fit in by now, but that is not the case.  One coworker in particular does not want me to fit in ever and she makes a point to let me know that.  One day she’ll be kind to me and the next she’s well a complete “B”!  Trying to kill her with kindness hasn’t worked and finally I talked with my boss about the situation, due to the fact that I was going home crying half the time.  He said that my age was a factor in the way they all acted around me, that they don’t know how to act around me.  They wouldn’t hang out with me outside of work because we wouldn’t have anything in common, so they don’t know how to act around me at work.  Since this conversation,  one coworker has not talked to me at all.  I don’t want to work at a place I am not wanted but I need the money!  My boss said he would talk to me later about the issue and has not.  What should I do?  I don’t think it is right to be treated like crap because I’m 10 years younger than everyone. Is it age discrimination when I am young (20) ?’ (clayalltheway53’, 30thApril 2024. Comment on ‘Body language of someone who does not like you’. @Villarvalerie.(Youtube video short). https://youtube.com/shorts/bnRAOfBa0rE?si=7-4ENOZ6J9-G5BPZ

‘I'm here today to seek your guidance on dealing with, I guess, bullies at work. I am 23years old and started my first job after finishing university. I am the youngest person at my workplace and no one near my age bracket. Also it seems the people there has been there for a long time. It's a tight clique. The problem begins with the way they speak to me. It is always condescending or rude or disrespectful. Everyday there's a comment on my clothing, shoes . They make comments and laugh and I feel my voice betray me and disappear. How do I stand up for myself? How do I get the courage to speak up?

I must admit that I'm not presenting my best image as most of my clothes and shoes are my mother's and we're different sizes. The difference is clear, but it's only been two weeks and the plan was to boost my wardrobe after my first pay. I was very excited to start this job but the last two weeks have made me feel so horrible and has put a spotlight on my economic situation. I honestly want to quit. How do I stay motivated? Do you think it will get better? AskPhonics. April 18th 2024.

There were over two hundred responses from people sharing similar experiences and offering support. These 2 testimonials perfectly convey how many people are out there dealing with relational aggression with no help in sight.

This prompted me to follow up on my post on Relational Aggression and provide tips on how to tackle it. 

Understand that none of this going to be easy—here are 6 ways to deal with Relational Aggression.

6 Ways to Deal with Relational Aggression

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